Jeff and Tom are best friends.  Jeff is madly in love with Jane and they are engaged to be married.  Jane's mother has insisted that if Jane were to sleep with Jeff before they were married, she would kick her daughter out of the house and disown her forever.  Now, there suddenly occurs a natural disaster which causes a huge flood to seperate Jeff and Jane.  Jane is lonely and longs for her fiance, and just about this time Roger the ferryman shows up and offers to take Jane across the lake if she will sleep with him (Roger).  Initialy she refuses, but eventualy her lonliness drives her to sleep with Roger in order to get across the lake.  She tells her mother, who promptly disowns her, and Roger takes her across the lake.  She is reunited with Jeff, but feels such guilt that she confesses to him that she slept with the ferryman.  He casts her out and tells her he never wants to see her again.  Having nowhere else to go, so goes to Tom, who, after hearing her story, says that he's willing to marry her if she is willing.

1.    The task is to rate each person in this scenario on a scale from 1 to 5, with 1 being the "best behaved" and 5 being "worst"
I'm interested in hearing how you guys would rate this, and also why.

2.    The vast majority of my class decided that Roger the ferryman was "worst behaved" and most to blame for Jane's misfortunes because of the selfishness and unfairness of his "fare."  As one classmate put it, "he was intentionaly taking advantage of her.  He knew she was going to cave and put out eventualy."  I'm interested in other people's perspective on this point, and especially on the issue of what constitutes a "fair" fare, or for that matter, a "fair" or "reasonable" price for any given service.

In talking with derwolf about these scenarios, we made the observation that while people often talk about the differences in their values, they often shy away from discussing the idea that some values may actualy be more beneficial, or even "correct" than others.  This is, I have noticed, a problem especialy prevelant in social work.  We get so concerned with accepting people as they are, that we often feel that we are not allowed to challenge them when they may be out of line.  Thoughs on this observation as well if you like.